![]() ![]() The very first step in moving forward is determining what is the true heart of the issue. The type of anger and upset that we are talking about is a response to something that matters to us being overlooked, frustrated, or otherwise neglected. "What is it we really stand for in this situation?" SO, if we’re feeling upset and about issues that seem beyond our influence, we obviously care enough to benefit greatly from taking the next three steps. All of the sudden, we may actually be contributing the angst and frustration around us. ![]() If we start to operate from a state of frustration and anger, it becomes more and more difficult to operate as our best self. Simply accepting futility is a recipe for frustration that is likely to put us closer to our personal tipping point in other areas of our life. If we simply do nothing about something that matters that much to us, we begin to erode the presence of meaning from our lives. Talking about it is a fine start, but there is real work to be done, work that is almost imperative to do, when we encounter a large scale upset that we feel powerless to influence. It is not a great idea to leave ourselves upset about meaningful issues. Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, recognize that if something means this much to us, then it matters enough for us to do something meaningful about it. In fact, it might even be strange if things that violated our sense of fairness didn’t evoke some emotional response. It is completely normal to be upset when we are confronted with things that are going in a manner so differently than the way we think they should go. Second of all, know that your feelings are normal. In fact, right now it is hard to find someone who isn’t upset about something. ![]() I’ve been speaking to a lot of people that feel this way. What can we do when we find ourselves at such odds? How can we move from feeling ineffectual, to having influence again?įirst of all, know that you are not alone. What happens to us if we simply leave it there? Left unchecked, these feelings can grow and begin to infiltrate a broader portion of our interactions, and we potentially run the risk of extreme frustration ultimately becoming feelings of powerlessness and even depression. We’ve identified that we are upset, we’ve lamented our lack of control, and then we’ve confirmed and solidified those impressions with another. If we leave it there, we are left with our feelings of upset and frustration. Often, we find ourselves talking to others, venting our feelings, and endeavoring to make certain we aren’t the only ones feeling this way. Usually, when that happens, we are not only upset about the issue itself, we are also upset about our seeming inability to make a difference. When we encounter these issues that seem too large for us to affect, we can find ourselves becoming upset. Whether it is in the form of national news headlines, global issues, or simply the behavior of others in positions of power, we have all encountered issues that run counter to our values or beliefs, that seem either too removed or too large for us for us to affect. ![]()
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